A Woman is Not Defined By…

noshoes-noworries:

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Excuse me while I throw this down, I’m old and cranky and tired of hearing the idiocy repeated by people who ought to know better.

Real women do not have curves. Real women do not look like just one thing.

Real women have curves, and not. They are tall, and not. They are brown-skinned, and olive-skinned, and not. They have small breasts, and big ones, and no breasts whatsoever.

Real women start their lives as baby girls. And as baby boys. And as babies of indeterminate biological sex whose bodies terrify their doctors and families into making all kinds of very sudden decisions.

Real women have big hands and small hands and long elegant fingers and short stubby fingers and manicures and broken nails with dirt under them.

Real women have armpit hair and leg hair and pubic hair and facial hair and chest hair and sexy moustaches and full, luxuriant beards. Real women have none of these things, spontaneously or as the result of intentional change. Real women are bald as eggs, by chance and by choice and by chemo. Real women have hair so long they can sit on it. Real women wear wigs and weaves and extensions and kufi and do-rags and hairnets and hijab and headscarves and hats and yarmulkes and textured rubber swim caps with the plastic flowers on the sides.

Real women wear high heels and skirts. Or not.

Real women are feminine and smell good and they are masculine and smell good and they are androgynous and smell good, except when they don’t smell so good, but that can be changed if desired because real women change stuff when they want to.

Real women have ovaries. Unless they don’t, and sometimes they don’t because they were born that way and sometimes they don’t because they had to have their ovaries removed. Real women have uteruses, unless they don’t, see above. Real women have vaginas and clitorises and XX sex chromosomes and high estrogen levels, they ovulate and menstruate and can get pregnant and have babies. Except sometimes not, for a rather spectacular array of reasons both spontaneous and induced.

Real women are fat. And thin. And both, and neither, and otherwise. Doesn’t make them any less real.

There is a phrase I wish I could engrave upon the hearts of every single person, everywhere in the world, and it is this sentence which comes from the genius lips of the grand and eloquent Mr. Glenn Marla: There is no wrong way to have a body.

I’m going to say it again because it’s important: There is no wrong way to have a body.

And if your moral compass points in any way, shape, or form to equality, you need to get this through your thick skull and stop with the “real women are like such-and-so” crap.

You are not the authority on what “real” human beings are, and who qualifies as “real” and on what basis. All human beings are real.

Yes, I know you’re tired of feeling disenfranchised. It is a tiresome and loathsome thing to be and to feel. But the tit-for-tat disenfranchisement of others is not going to solve that problem. Solidarity has to start somewhere and it might as well be with you and me.

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fattyforever:

iridessence:

the-lost-time-lord:

fuckyeahhardfemme:

taliaitscoldoutside:

moon-cunt:

jarabelunar:

ahealthierperspective:

rreen:

muddypetticoats:

whatwhiteswillneverknow:

How to use your white privilege

If the “passing privilege” person is looking at this blog, this is one thing you can do, if you’re up to it.

Reblogging for excellence.

Too beautiful.

More passing people, and people who recognize white privilege should do this

for the white folk who ask “but what am i supposed to do about all of this”

soooooooosososososo so good.

WHITE PASSING/WHITE PEOPLE PLEASE WATCH THIS IF YOU EVER WERE GONNA WATCH ANYTHING WATCH THIS.

Just wanna state that I believe being hard femme also means using your privileges (whatever they may be) and your ability to be hard badass femmes to smash down on oppression just like this.

Amen.

If you have it, put it to some use for GOOD. And don’t be cryptic in your language, call people racist.

Here’s some really good advice! Watch it!

(Source: whatwhiteswillneverknow, via pugnaciouspants-deactivated2013)

"Breasts play a big role here as men have become accustomed to getting aroused to large, silicone-enhanced ones, and their girlfriends’ seem small and uninviting by comparison. Pubic hair has become a big turnoff, especially today when many young women in the real world are removing it, so a woman who has “ungroomed” hair is less desirable. Josh told me how over the years the type of woman’s body he likes has come to resemble porn performers in that he likes them “shaved, oiled, and well-toned.” I asked him how he would feel if his girlfriend didn’t match up, to which he replied, “I would think that she didn’t take care of herself… that she needed to make herself look good, not just for me, but for herself also.” Also disappointing is that these women do not behave like the women in porn-they are not begging for rough sex, nor do they respond orgasmically to every touch. Many of these men don’t want to think of their girlfriends in the same way they think of porn women, but they find it increasingly difficult to separate the two."

Gail Dines, Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality (via wretchedoftheearth)

this is such a good book

i also love how it points out the scummy guy using liberal/choice feminist rhetoric (shave her entire body for herSELF) to justify his misogynist standards and desire to control his partner

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it’s irritating how men want a “natural” woman, until she doesn’t shave anything, then it’s disgusting

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fakegirlgamer:

SO WENDY DAVIS COULDN’T FUCKING EAT, PISS, SIT DOWN, DRINK, LEAN, OR STOP TALKING BECAUSE THAT WOULD BE “BREAKING THE RULES” BUT YOU CAN FUCKING BREAK THEM TO VOTE AFTER MIDNIGHT AND JUST FUCKING PASS THIS ANYWAY 180,000 PEOPLE ON A LIVESTREAM JUST WATCHED YOU BREAK YOUR OWN LAWS SO YOU CAN FUCKING STOMP ON MINORITIES

THIS MAKES ME SO FUCKING MAD I CANT EVEN

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lacigreen:

thenewwomensmovement:

theovarianbarbarian:

kat1712:

Senator Wendy Davis is a fucking badass.

There’s this bill that they are trying to pass in Texas that would make it illegal to get any abortion after 20 weeks of pregnancy, and would make it very difficult for abortion centers to continue doing what they do. Governor Rick Perry has already said that if the bill makes it to his desk, he will sign it. And Wendy Davis said fuck no that is not happening.

So she’s filibustering it. That means she asked to talk on the subject at 11:18 this morning, and if she can continue talking about abortion until 11:59 tonight, the bill won’t reach Governor Perry, and they would have to start all over with the bill next time they meet- 2 years from now.

But Wendy has to keep talking. She can’t pause for even a minute, not for food or a sip of water or to go to the bathroom or sit down. She can’t even lean up against anything, or she’s out. So she’s wearing motherfucking PINK NIKE TENNIS SHOES in the middle of the state senate.

She also has to continue talking about the topic. She sent out tweets an other messages last night asking for anyone and everyone’s abortion story, and received a shit load of answers. Her staff is still collecting them, and she’s reading them aloud to the senate. Not only is she making this bill impossible to pass, she may just change some minds while she’s at it.

This is history, guys. Wendy Davis is a motherfucking badass, and we are watching it happen.

She’s putting on for my state and city! Yehyuh!

And she’s doing incredible! 

THIS IS HAPPENING RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW.

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tasia-reader:

In which “Jenny” Bravo is sick of your shit

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yelyahwilliams:

Also following this

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pollums:

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good-idea-poorly-executed:

lostwiginity:

Interesting.

This is actually really interesting.

I love that he pointed out that it’s different when men and women are objectified on film, not only because of the way our society views men and women, but also in the specific way those shots are framed

When consuming media it’s so important to remember that filmmakers and ad companies have so many tools at their disposal that the average viewer is not even aware of. The way a scene is set, the way the camera moves, which parts of a person are included in the fame, the number of seconds the camera views each particular part of a person. All of these things very subtly evoke responses from us. We don’t notice them because we aren’t supposed to notice them—if they are doing their job right, everything feels seamless and correct to the viewer. And even if we do notice, we may not be able to articulate it because most of us haven’t studied filmmaking techniques. 

If you think you are 100% impenetrable to the effects of the content you view, you are deluding yourself.

excellent explanation of the Male Gaze, a must watch

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awkwardsituationist:

cambridge university students were asked on campus why they needed feminism. here are 60 answers. click the link for over 600 more.